For organizersSingles nights and speed dating

Speed dating without the bell.

Flare runs your singles night without rotating tables or scorecards. Guests answer your questions, and each one is introduced to someone they’d both want to meet, in the room, while the night is still going.

Try it freeSee the questions you’d ask

A singles night of up to 50 costs $79.99, once. Up to 100 costs $149.99.

Rounds wear people out

Three minutes each with nine people, most of whom were never a fit, then a scorecard filled in under the table.

Matches arrive too late

Mutual picks usually come by email the next day, after the moment and the nerve have both gone.

Numbers run the night

One no-show breaks the rotation, and somebody spends a round beside an empty chair.

Tables, a bell, and nine short conversations.

Everyone scans in and answers your questions.

Flare checks who’d actually want to meet.

Two phones light up. Nobody fills in a card.

Questions you could use tonight.

Flare only knows what you ask. Here’s a starting template for this kind of event, and why each question is there. Copy it, then change whatever doesn’t sound like your crowd.

What your guests see when they scan in. Illustrated with this template.

  1. Which first-date activities would you enjoy?

    Shared answersNormal importanceMultiple choice

    Overlap gives two people something to do next, and something to say first.

  2. Your ideal evening: quiet (1) to lively (5)?

    Similar answersNormal importanceScale of 1 to 5

    People who like the same kind of night tend to enjoy the first one.

  3. What are you hoping to find?

    Shared answersHigh importanceSingle choice

    A clear difference here wastes both people’s evening.

  4. A conversation I would love to have…

    Conversation contextNormal importanceShort text

    A soft signal for ranking. It’s never shown to the person they meet.

Each guest’s own preferences about who they’d like to meet, and their dealbreakers, always apply. A match works both ways or it doesn’t happen. You can’t override that, and neither can the AI.

How to build this in the appHow to write good questions

How the night runs.

You start the event from your own iPhone and put the code where guests can see it. Everything after that happens on their phones.

  1. 7:00

    Doors. The code is on a screen by the bar. Guests scan in and answer your questions over a first drink.

  2. 7:30

    You say a few words about the light, clearing a match and staying in the room. Everyone lights their flare.

  3. 7:35

    The first pairs light up and start looking. The room starts moving by itself.

  4. 8:20

    Rest timers run out (45 minutes for dating) and second introductions begin for anyone who wants one.

  5. 10:00

    You end the event. Answers are deleted, and you keep the totals.

What it looks like on the phones.

Real screens from the app, in the order they come up.

The host’s phone showing the live event code
You show the codeIt changes every five minutes, so only people in the room can join.
A phone lit violet saying someone worth looking up for
Two phones light upSame color, same rhythm. The other person is in the room somewhere.
The light holding steady and saying there you are
They find each otherThe pulse quickens as they get closer, then holds steady.
Event results with example totals
You see the totalsWho joined and who met, as counts only. Example numbers shown.

Is it right for your event?

It tends to suit

  • Rooms of about 30 or more, with a reasonable mix of who wants to meet whom
  • Crowds that are mostly on iPhone
  • Hosts tired of running clipboards and matching by hand

It’s probably not for

  • Events that promise every guest a set number of dates
  • Hosts who want to hand-pick pairs or see who matched with whom
  • Very small rooms, where mutual fits run out quickly

Pay once, for this event.

A singles night of up to 50 costs $79.99, once. Up to 100 costs $149.99.

No subscription and no per-match fee. Guests never pay.

How to choose a size

Guests, up toOne eventWorks out at
10FreeRehearsal
15$29.99About $2.00 a guest
50$79.99About $1.60 a guest
100$149.99About $1.50 a guest
250$299.99About $1.20 a guest

What organizers ask.

All questions

Does everyone get a match?
No, and we won’t pretend otherwise. Flare only introduces people when the fit works in both directions. Someone who doesn’t fit anyone yet keeps waiting while new guests arrive and others finish their rest.
What if a guest doesn’t want to meet their match?
One tap on “Clear” ends both lights straight away. The other person sees a soft “Not this time” with no reason, and gets their rest back so they can be matched again sooner. They won’t be matched with each other again at your event.
Can guests see each other’s photos or answers?
No. There are no photos in Flare at all, and answers are never shown to the other person. All they see is a shared light and, at the end, something they have in common when there is one.
Does it work for LGBTQ+ nights?
Yes. Guests set who they are and who they’d like to meet, including nonbinary options, and a match always has to work both ways. No gender is preselected.
How do I handle someone behaving badly?
Guests can block or report from the light in one tap. Reports appear on your event screen, where you can remove a participant. Anyone with two or more open reports is paused from matching until you act.

Keep reading.

Run a speed dating eventVenue, numbers, timing, scorecards, and a format without the bell.Host a singles mixerA venue, the first twenty minutes, and keeping it comfortable.Host your first eventThe whole journey, from opening the app to ending the night.

Try it with ten people, for free.

A rehearsal is a real event. Round up some friends, run it once, and see how it feels before you put it in front of a room.

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