Join an event

You’ll need an iPhone on iOS 18 or later. Flare is free for guests, and you don’t need to give a name or email. You also need to be 18 or older.

Step 1

Get the app

Install Flare before you leave home if you can, because venue Wi-Fi can be slow. Get Flare.

Step 2

Open it at the venue and tap Light my flare

Choose Dating, Friends or Work at the top of the screen if you’re asked, then tap Light my flare. If you aren’t at an event yet, this opens the scanner. Allow camera access so Flare can read the code. Nothing from the camera is stored or sent.

The Flare home screen with a warm light and a Light my flare button
Step 3

Scan the code

Point your phone at the code your host is showing, or type the six digits they read out. The code changes every five minutes and only works while the event is live.

The join screen with a six-digit code entered and the Light my flare button
Step 4

Answer the host’s questions

You’ll see the event’s name and a few questions from your host. The answers are for this event only. They don’t change your personal profile, and neither the host nor anyone you meet can read them.

Some events use Flare’s standard questions instead, and you’ll be asked to finish your profile. At dating events you’ll also review who you’d like to meet. About your profile.

A guest’s view of an event, with the name, venue and first questions
Step 5

Light your flare

Tap Light my flare. You’re in. Your light is now searching the room. You can keep your phone out, or put it away with notifications on, and Flare will tell you when your light finds someone. You can also choose how good a match has to be. What happens next.

The light searching, with the words Be here, see what happens, and a choice of Okay, Good or Strong
What happens to your answers

Flare uses your answers to find you a good introduction. To rank them, it sends the answers without your name to an AI model run by Cloudflare. You can read exactly what happens to them.

Keep reading

Follow the lightWhat your light is telling you at each stage.Set up your profileWhat’s in it, where it’s stored and who sees it.TroubleshootingFixes for scanning, matching and purchase problems.